Where Do I Begin?

Hey luvlies! How’s life treating everyone? I hope you are well. πŸ™‚

I’ve had a ton of things on my mind lately and I hope this post will resonate with someone. Especially the single moms, or the mommas period, that are entrepreneurs or want to be entrepreneurs.

I’m currently in bed, and nursing Milahn while I type this. I can barely see the keyboard, it’s going on for ten o’clock and I’m fighting sleep. I should stop and finish later, but I really want to get this post done now.

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Um…….. I fell asleep. It’s now 3:40 am. Let’s start again.

So recently, I decided to get to work on my passion projects. No more procrastinating. No more being envious of others accomplishing their goals. I’m even taking on this mindset when it comes to my professional developement at work.Β No more saying, ‘I’ll start when I have more money’ or ‘It’s not the right time’.

I mean damn, time waits for no one and I am bored and feeling mighty unfulfilled. I have settled when it came to a lot of things in the past, and I still do from time to time, but not this time. This is something I will regret if I don’t at least try.

The good thing about maturity, you recognise when you’re putting things off and you can be honest about why. Let’s keep it 100. I’m a single momma who has more debt than money, but I want to grow my business and provide value. You need money. You need that capital, and right now I don’t have much of that.

Now in my last post I mentioned I am starting a business. I won’t go into too much detail, but I’m going to launch a pop up shop and I’m working on my own T-Shirt line. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for yearssss. I actually gave it a go a few years ago, but I didn’t stick to it. That’s all I will share for now, but there’s a lot more that I’m working on!

So where do I begin?

First off, I’m getting myself organised. I’m a note taker and I love to make lists. I write down just about everything. I will normally date it as well. I find this helps me to see if I have made any progress, from the time I initially wrote down my goal or idea.

So what I recently did was this. I went through my bag and took out all the notebooks and sticky notes and threw away what I didn’t need. I threw away the stray papers and got rid of the clutter. I have a notebook for each passion project and for the podcasts I listen to. I believe that you need to keep your thoughts and ideas organised. There should be designated notebooks for each project you are working on. It’s just like when you’re in school. You don’t work on your maths in your history book right?

I also decided to step out and start networking. It may be small steps mind you lol, but I’m trying. I created my Instagram page for my business. I haven’t posted much, but I’m working on that. I am just glad I stopped putting off creating it. I’m spending a lot more time on LinkedIn as well. This is also to help with my professional developement. I will be completely honest. I am definitely seeking other employment opportunities. I would like to be professionally and financially fulfilled. I have my daughter to consider and I will work my ass off to get my designations if that’s what it takes. I will bust my ass to get my business up and running as well. There’s so many women entrepreneurs doing big things! If they can do it, so can I and so can YOU.

My last lil nugget I want to share is this. READ!!! Start reading.

There’s a wealth of knowledge out there. You have to be hungry for it and seek it out. I’m one that loves books, but ever since I had Milahn, I can’t seem to find the time to read. Well guess what hunny, that’s about to change! I currently have at least ten books in my Amazon cart to purchase.

Listening to podcasts is extremely helpful as well! I’ve been listening to Side Hustle Pro and Myleik Teele’sΒ podcast!! These are everything and more. I’ve gained valuable knowledge just by listening to them. If you can’t do anything else, at least listen to some of them. Seriously.

I have one last thing to share for now.

I turn to my Father, Jehovah. I lean on Him. I talk to Him daily, but not enough. I don’t lean on my own understanding. I don’t make rash decisions. Not anymore. If I’m feeling discouraged, distracted or lost, I turn to Him. On a daily basis I am reading my Bible plans. I’m reading the word more and more and strengthening my relationship with God. I can’t do anything without Him. From the last season to this season, I know it’s because of God that I’m not where I used to be. Last year was so so painful. One day I may share in more detail, but for now, take my word for it. The stress was real. You can see in my pictures from last summer how I lost so much weight. But I am more than a conqueror.

Imay have went off tpoic a bit, but it can never be said too many times. To all the women going through things, be encouraged! No matter how alone you feel, you are NEVER alone. Never. You are strong. You are brave. You are loved!

Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

 

Thanks for reading luvlies. Be blessed.

x

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Watch My Progress

Good morning, good evening and good afternoon.

So let me get right to it. It’s 12:31am… Wednesday morning, when I start writing this post. Who knows when I will actually finish and post this, but that’s the norm.

I’ve been giving some thought as to what my purpose is. Actually I’m always wondering what my purpose is and I am confident that I am still no closer to answering that question. πŸ™‚

That brings to me to this blog. How does it tie in with my purpose?

Initially, I suppose I created this blog to share my personal journey of motherhood and other cutesy things. But clearly that hasn’t been happening. No worries. Life happens. I am busy being a mother. A single working mother. So my time is definitely limited. I am realllyyy working on some balance. But I’m not sure that even exists. How the heck do you find the time? Moms across the universe, PLEASE tell me how.

One thing I am certain of though is that I want to inspire, motivate and uplift. I’ve felt this way for a few years now. We have all been through hard times, heartbreak, loneliness etc. and I know I didn’t go through my trials and tribulations in vain.

With that in mind, I decided to start a Facebook group. Queens In Progress. I legit just started it. I want to help. I want to be that listening ear. We can inspire and motivate one another, as well as share knowledge.

I feel this is a step in the right direction in fulfilling my purpose. I am finally making moves instead of just making plans.

So with time being one of my main issues, I decided to de clutter my social media. I’m not done just yet, but I am making sure I am going to be using the necessary platforms that will allow me to reach specific goals.Β I even deleted some people from Facebook. Like why are we even ‘friends’? I’m going to do the same on Instagram as well. If it’s not conducive to where I’m going, erm, delete. It’s nothing personal, but I’m starting anew.

I’m still in the process of customizing this blog. I can’t see myself adding content when I don’t like how my blog looks. Ovbiously I will still post though. From there I will figure out exactly what the purpose of this blog is and the content I will be sharing. I honestly feel like deleting a lot of my previous posts but we shall see.

I’m a mother, a blogger and business woman. Yes. I’m starting my own business, so I definitely have no time to waste. I need to build up my brand and if that means starting from scratch then so be it.

It’s now or never.

Watch my progress.

Love Yourself First

 

So this is something that has been on my mind. I posted this on FacebookΒ yesterday. I was good and irritated about some things and I really felt the need to say something. I hope that someone will get something out of this. Women put themselves through too much. Enough is enough!! We need to share our stories to help others. We’re all going through or have been through difficult situations. Let’s start with ourselves…

Ok…. I needa say some things. A dose of realness for you. There’s so much more I wanna say… but soon come.

Now some of these things I have been guilty of and I am going to try my hardest to make better choices.

Ladies….we need to do better.

There will be times when we give men the husband benefits for example. STOP IT. Not all men are deserving of this. Just like not all women are deserving of wifey benefits.

I’m not talking about just sex either. I’m talking about cooking, cleaning, paying bills, they’re using our transport, buying them clothes, toiletries etc.Taking care of their kids. THEIR kids(Yes it takes a village but his name is MAN and he needs to do his part). Getting mad when they are hollering at other chicks. Getting mad when they don’t wife us up. Getting mad because we don’t have a title. Getting mad when they do us wrong. Getting mad at the OTHER chick(s). BUT WE STAY…. AND GIVE THEM EVEN MOREEEEEE!!!

Now this isn’t about bashing men.

This is about WOMEN recognizing their worth. We need to stop giving them our all when they are not even giving us a sample of what we deserve. Shoot, we don’t even get the title of girlfriend sometimes, but we are letting them get drunk off of the sweet fruits of our bodies and feeding them steak and lobster off our dime.

Especially stop giving up the Jewel of the Nile. When you have sex, you open up yourself to a whollllllle lot of things. Sex f&@ks with your mind. Pun intended. When sex comes into play, ladies…. you know we take it to the next level. So do yourselves a favour and just hold off.

Now ladies….WE DO NOT NEED MEN TO VALIDATE US. We carry babies. PLURAL. A BABY comes out of our vaginas. If not they cut the baby out. We go through ALLLLLL of that. WE BLEED for ‘x’ amount of days and we don’t die. That isn’t enough validation for you???

Listen here QUEENS. STOP, DROP and ROLL AWAY from that situationship. Yes. That situationship. If you’re wondering ‘what we are’ RUN. If you are in a situationship that is going past 1 year. RUNNNNNNNNN. People know what they want faster than they let on. Humans are very intelligent. We will do what we are allowed to do for as longgggggggg as possible. Especially when there are no consequences.

We teach our kids about consequences when they do wrong, but when it comes to that guy giving you that good ting a ling..who is messing with 2 other chicks and we go broke for…. what we do??? REWARD BAD BEHAVIOUR. LOLLLLLLL and we think he stays because he loves us. Of course he stays!! He stays because he gets away with F@#%y.

Start loving yourselves QUEENS… and to the guys that take advantage.

Karma is a female. She’s got you covered. *Smooches

I can say all this because I have done it. Trusssssssst me.

Stop giving them the sweet fruits of your body. They don’t deserve it. They haven’t earned it.

You can’t even put a value on your temple.

There is no amount that could ever define how exquisite a woman is.

How exquisite her mind is.

How exquisite how body is.

ESPECIALLY when she loves herself and knows her worth.

Ladies….. we need to do better. Love yourselves. Our sons and daughters are watching.

But wait….To the older women and men. You need to set an example as well. You are JUST as responsible. We have learned some of these things from you. We have all heard the stories bout Uncle having 5 outside kids with ace gurl up de country. While Aunty was home tending to dem 10 kids and only 5 of them were hers. Kermit been sipping tea for a min, so don’t be downing the younger ladies and men, when you haven’t been held accountable for not loving yourselves either.

Now imma just gently rest my mic down and skip away.

#Peaceloveandcoconutoil
xo

 

 

I’m Still Here

I know I know. I’ve been missing. I post a few things here and there and then I go ghost.

I haven’t written anything in a while. IΒ haven’t beenΒ on social media much either. I barely go on Facebook (because it’s been damn depressing!!) and I’ve only just recently posted a pic or two on FB and Instagram. But you can catch me on Snapchat lol, holla at me! I’m a mommy now and my daughter comes first. It’s self-explanatory right? She is my everything and that’s that. Don’t get me wrong, I am currently trying to find that balance. Β I mean shoot, I have dreams and I have goals, but lately they’ve been pushed to the back burner. I have loads of projects to do, but it’s just finding the time to do them. When I was at home and my daughter was small and less mobile, clearly I had more time. Why don’t I have the time? Β Whelp, I’m back at work to answer your question. Since May 11th.Β That’sΒ why I’m trying to find that balance.

Yesss hunty (or bredren), I got me a j-o-b and it feels some sort of good!! Praise Jah!! Won’t He do it?!

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Lord knows I was very anxious to get a job. I will have to share my testimony one day for sure. This has been quite a journey and I hope I will be able to inspire others. Even if it’s just one person.

So any who, I’m at another Β insurance company and I’m definitely enjoying this new role. It’s currently a 6 month contract so we shall see what happens in the near future. I’m going to use every bit of experience I gain to my advantage, but all I can say is the Lord is working things out. While He does His part, I’ll keep doing my part. My daughter is counting on me!

SO! That being said,Β I’m now able to support my baby. I feel like a big girl every time I pay my daughter’s nursery fees. Side note:Β I’ll have to share my feelings on being away from her in another post. Fackin right I miss her chunky cheeks! But being able to buy her food, clothing and pay for the things she needs gives me a sense of accomplishment. I’m a single mum and I gotta do what I gots to do! I’m a very independent person, so having to depend on someone irks my soul. Obviously we can’t do anything in life without some type of assistance, but you get what I’m saying.

NOW…. having said that, I am back. I am back on my grind yo. I am here to build. Ain’t nobody gonna build my empire but moi. I am learning daily and I am building daily. It’s not always easy to stay motivated and to ignore unwanted distractions, but it has to be done. I’m not one to sit and let opportunity pass me by and I sure as heck don’t like those feelings of regret; the woudla, coulda, shoulda thoughts. Nahhh, I got no time for that.

So here I am. Milah, a single working mum, who could have lost herself and her dreams, but found herself before too manyΒ years passed her by. I don’t want to be that mum who gives it ALL up and doesn’t at least hold on to one dream. I’m already 34 and I feel like I’m starting late as it is, but I believe in God’s timing. I believe things happen exactly when they should, and now seems like a pretty darn good time to keep on trucking and make some dreams come true.

 

Mums around the world..Don’t lose yourself..Don’t forget yourself.Β β™₯

 

Milah aka Mommy xo